There is no doubt about it. When your down and out, when pain wears you down and nothing seems to go your way, how you think and what you say can be in your favor or it can be your worse nightmare. Have you ever been in one of those situations when you went off at the mouth and later on you thougth and said to yourself “what the _ _ _ _ was I thinking! Or what the _ _ _ _ did I just say! Been there, done that. In fact way too many times to count and I really don’t want to relive those times thank you very much.
Our mouths and minds can be our own worse emenies, especially when we speak before we think, and double that on top of pain and sleepless nights and you have one heck of a melting pot of trouble. But have you really taken the time to analize your state of mind, your outlook and how you’ve behaved in the past and present? How you think and how you speak to the way you feel and what comes out of your mouth to your quality of life and if it’s all negative how things always remain negative and your pain does not lessen and your bad luck just seems to get worse and not better?
Have you ever stopped to think that your mind and body connection are one in the same and that how you think and act effect your future outcome? For instance if you keep thinking and saying “oh I will never get a promotion or raise because my boss never likes me” or “I will never lose weight because I can never follow a plan” or “I can’t eat healthy because it cost so much” or “I can’t ever get well because something always pops up”. Then strange enough down the road the more you beleive it and say it, sure enough it happens. Have you ever stopped to think you’ve just been predicting your future because you’ve been negative. Negative inside and outside so you get a negative outcome?
So why not try the reverse. If you don’t have anything posive be quiet or flip it and try to make something positve out of it. Force yourself to be positive. Do this daily until pretty soon you will not say anything negative about yourself in anyway or predict your future or health in a negative way and see what your outcome will be. You might surprise yourself and others around you. You might be a better person and a happier person and more people just might want to hang around you too. And if your in pain it just might make your pain a little more tolerable. Now granted it’s not a cure it will just make things a little more tolerable. What have you got to lose? Nothing. So give it a try. I dare you to focus on being positive. Make a journal from a notebook and start with 5 things each day to be thankful for, or 5 things that are positive. And if you catch yourself being negative start a negative jar and put in $1.00 for a punishment and go back and redo it and make it a positive until it becomes 2nd nature.
You will be surprised and happy at the end results. I know I was. I made 1 phrase on a card, a simple prayer, as my mantra and repeated it when I caught myself about to complain or whine “through God all things are possible” and kept saying it all day and all night. When the pain got at it’s worse (I suffer daily intractible migraines and I can only take abortive meds 4 days a week and 3 days I cannot take any meds at all-cannot even take OTC meds as they interact w/my preventive meds) so I listen to soft meditation music, go to my dark bedroom and pack my head in ice, my neck in warm heat pads, cuddle with my dog and meditate in solitude. On my best days I can semi-function at a pain level of 6 at best and if my pain level goes down to a 5 I want to do cartwheels and count my blessings as the pain never goes lower than that.
I have several comorbiditeis but I can go into that later. But it has made a difference. Positive thinking has turned my world around if only a 1/8 to a 1/4 I will take whatever I can get and count my blessings and not whine, complain or think negative!
Always count your blessings.
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